Emotional tourists are those people who are absent in your life for the most part and the moment they realize that you have begun to drift away from them, they pop in with the attention you have been craving. Once they are sure that their tactic was efficient they begin to drift away all over again, this does not happen just once it becomes re-occurring. They are just in your life for constant assurance that they don't need to be emotionally invested for you to stay on, they are there to feed off your emotions to feel the void in their lives.
Why are they a danger to your emotional health, well because of this on and off again treatment all those moments you are ready to throw in the towel and move on, they hinder you with their sweet and reassuring words thus making it difficult to let go.
How to identify an emotional tourist
Are they only available when you are so done with the relationship?
After being so loving and reassuring do they begin to drift again?
Has this occurrence become a routine in your relationship?
If it is yes to all this, then you are probably attached to an emotional tourist.
Wait!!! Before you all jump to a damaging conclusion an emotional tourist is entirely different from him/ her being busy.
As we all know life can get in the way sometimes, so evaluate if they have a good reason for being distant not radio silent. It might be due to a project deadline, a job that takes most of their time or so on and so forth, this shows that it boils down to communication.
Don't be tagged an emotional tourist
If as mentioned earlier, life gets in the way ensure to let your partner know ahead of time.
Being busy does not mean you become radio silent, make it a duty to at least send a text about your busy day even if you can't call. If you are a forgetful person like me create a reminder for this.
You can never be busy 24/7 in 365 days, so when you have that free time reach out, not with a text as that might lead to brevity but with a phone call that is more time investing than a mere text because even your network provider sends texts time and again.
I am not an expert but trust me it is easy to be tagged an emotional tourist especially when you feed off others to be happy. So I would leave you with this quote
Bible Verse: "My choice is you, God, first and only. And now I find I'm your choice! You set me up with a house and yard. And then you made me your heir!" - Psalm 16:6 (MSG)
Why are they a danger to your emotional health, well because of this on and off again treatment all those moments you are ready to throw in the towel and move on, they hinder you with their sweet and reassuring words thus making it difficult to let go.
How to identify an emotional tourist
Are they only available when you are so done with the relationship?
After being so loving and reassuring do they begin to drift again?
Has this occurrence become a routine in your relationship?
If it is yes to all this, then you are probably attached to an emotional tourist.
Wait!!! Before you all jump to a damaging conclusion an emotional tourist is entirely different from him/ her being busy.
As we all know life can get in the way sometimes, so evaluate if they have a good reason for being distant not radio silent. It might be due to a project deadline, a job that takes most of their time or so on and so forth, this shows that it boils down to communication.
Don't be tagged an emotional tourist
If as mentioned earlier, life gets in the way ensure to let your partner know ahead of time.
Being busy does not mean you become radio silent, make it a duty to at least send a text about your busy day even if you can't call. If you are a forgetful person like me create a reminder for this.
You can never be busy 24/7 in 365 days, so when you have that free time reach out, not with a text as that might lead to brevity but with a phone call that is more time investing than a mere text because even your network provider sends texts time and again.
I am not an expert but trust me it is easy to be tagged an emotional tourist especially when you feed off others to be happy. So I would leave you with this quote
“If you cannot find peace within yourself, you will never find it anywhere else.”
Marvin Gaye
Shoutout to the single ladies that were excited about my last post, I was glad about the reception and I am sure that the single season would soon reach its end.Bible Verse: "My choice is you, God, first and only. And now I find I'm your choice! You set me up with a house and yard. And then you made me your heir!" - Psalm 16:6 (MSG)
