The Root

           Welcome once again to my fellow bloggers and equally to my avid readers and supporters. how was your valentine celebration hope you shared the love and learned of new ways to appreciate yourself and bask in the beauty of the love that surrounds you.
           I would be delving into a sensitive issue today one about relationships. I would also like you to note that these are just my views and they do not reflect how your relationship should be or point out what is absent in it. It is just a way of sharing my opinion (which can be disputable) with you.
           Relationship has been defined by so many scholars and individuals but I do believe everyone has their unique definition for the term because the term in itself is a unique entity different to everyone. Relationships are not necessarily between lovers, they could be with friends, families, schoolmates, colleagues and some people even have relationships with their pets and treasured objects.
           Although relationships come in several forms and in different ways it still hods its roots down in acknowledgement, acceptance, appreciation , respect, trust and love. I am but yet still ignorant of the several faces of love and how it works but one sure thing I have learnt is that love is not like a book you read to understand because it is so unpredictable. Love is what you learn to feel and come to appreciate for its warmness and its strength.
            In every relationship we must be willing to acknowledge that we are ready to try and venture into a world unknown one in which we learn new things and test limits we have never known existed. I do not subscribe to the belief that love is all about putting others needs before yours I believe it is more like loving others just as much as you love yourself. You cannot make others happy if you are sad within can you? Acknowledging the strength that love can give you will fuel your resolve the more to allow room for growth in your relationship
            When I talk of acceptance I like to take it hand in hand with appreciation because once you accept someone for what they are you begin to appreciate them.Remember a relationship is not a perfect picture but it can be a beautiful one. There will always be similarities and differences and this is where the scale of balance comes in to play. You have to accept the similarities in your relationship and by doing that you learn to appreciate the difference that it contains, this scale of balance tilts your relationship into a semblance of beauty.
            Respect, hmm a big word right one we have heard so many times and seen displayed in so many ways. By respecting an individual or a group of people you admire their abilities and their qualities, you regard what they stand for and believe in. Respect is one broad topic that holds a lot of diverse opinion and reaction but still it is one thing we all clamor for. With that said I will leave you with a lovely quote to ponder upon " One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say " - Bryant H. McGill
             Till the next time when we will talk about sub topics like trust.
      Thanks again for giving your time to support me may God bless you and to you all I say Happy new Month. Have a blissful one.

Bible passage
"You shall love the Lord with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength" Deuteronomy 6:5
The love of Christ is the greatest feeling ever. Try Him and see that He is good.

THE LADY AND HER LORD: LOVING LOVE

THE LADY AND HER LORD: LOVING LOVE:          I welcome you all to the unveiling of a new post and also apologize for the irregularity of the posts which is mainly due to a lot ...

LOVING LOVE

         I welcome you all to the unveiling of a new post and also apologize for the irregularity of the posts which is mainly due to a lot of time being dedicated to my studies. Please do bear with me.
         Today's post is titled "Loving Love", an awkward title for a post right? Yes I know but it did its job, it captured your attention and increased your level of curiosity. Loving love is not all about others but about us grasping the intention of love.
         February is a month popularly tagged "the month of love" because it harbors a special day dedicated to express love, although personally I believe love is an emotion that should be expressed everyday and to everyone irregardless of their identity. This does not mean lovers, family and friends should not take this day into consideration it only means that we should not limit our ability to love and express our emotions to this day alone.
         As a thriving youth in this present time I also understand that a lot has been taken for granted or out of context, many laugh at beautiful compliments, despise the sentence i love you and could care less about emotional gestures. All these should not mean that we stop expressing these feelings, just because life is hard does not mean we stop living right? I am equally guilty of misreading compliments like many of us would agree because it seem that as the generations grow older we begin to view gentlemen as flirts, independent women as proud and virtuous ladies as pretenders. This should not be the case, rather we should learn to embrace these qualities and treat them as the treasures they are meant to be.
      That is why loving love itself should start out with us loving ourselves by this we teach ourselves to stop waiting for a mask to fall off someone's face, or for our fears to hunt our happiness by this we start hoping and living not fearing and dying in insecurities. 
       Let me take us all back to the basics as far as my own understanding can go; Love stands for a lot of beautiful things, it is an emotion that houses several emotions like joy, purity, beauty, fulfillment among several others but how can we express love if we have not fully embraced ourselves.
       We now live in a world where there are several insecurities and several people thriving in low self-esteem because we have left the basics, jumped the gun. we want to start loving others when we have not loved ourselves. By loving ourselves we open a new dimension, one where you see yourself as the deserving person you are, one where the world is yours to take and not one where we cower and hide behind the facade of public acceptance because the truth is not everyone will love you or your ideals but everyone could admire your strength of holding on to them.
        I charge us all that while we are yet in this season of love let us learn to embrace ourselves, to embrace our strength and weakness, our beauty and our flaws then and only then can we learn to love others. You cannot share what you do not possess, you can only share love because you are filled with it . Decide to fall in love with love and not just the idea of love because it is such a beautiful feeling just as it is a beautiful idea.

Note: Loving yourself does not mean you are perfect or above anyone else it simply means you know your flaws and have grown to accept and understand them. Do not use the excuse of loving yourself as a means to make others feel terrible about who they are or what they stand for.

        I want us all to embrace this emotion and watch as it opens doors of confidence we never knew existed. Love was made to be beautiful and when expressed accordingly it becomes irresistible to all.
       Before I end this post I would share a beautiful bible passage regarding love. it goes thus,

" Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away(But love still remains)." - 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8

I love you all and appreciate your support.
Have a wonderful valentine's day celebration, stay safe and act safely and responsibly.

what would you do if you got this for vals *emotional trauma tho*

LOST PAST

Today's blog is only going to be a poem; One I wrote a long time ago regarding problems of letting go of the past and loosing yourself in the present.  This poem is not properly composed to fit the rules of literary poem, it is just the pouring out of emotions.

Have fun as you read.


      Walking down this lonely road
      As all emotions flowed,
      A river of tears finding its way through my eyes,
      Resounding echos , just one word
     "Is this the end."
      When i think of you
      The color blue is all i see
      It represents the calmness i feel just like the sea
      Brightness radiates like the sun
     Alas, this ends here
     It goes no further
     The love i once had
     The love i once felt
     All has been washed away
     Dragged away by the tide of time
     When i look forward
     I expect to see your smile but i see no you
    All that i see now is new.
                                                               Serifat Adebola

Bible passage
 1 Corinthians 15:58 "Always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that your labor is not in vain in the Lord"

  Remember that the heart was made to love, never to hate.