Welcome to another season of love. For some people their status has changed from last year and for others it remains the same, regardless of which criteria you fall into my question to you is
'Are you there yet'.
No, I do not mean marriage 🤣 (Shout out to our married readers), I mean have you gotten to your place of comfort where your situation or the lack of it does not determine how you view yourself. What is she rambling about? I know I know but just humor me and go with my flow.
So to my avid readers, you definitely know that relationships has been a growing experience for me (Lol another way to say "It has been brutal"). I had always been the type of person to attach certain qualities about myself to tangible things like my brilliance to my grades, my kindness to my presence and stuff like that. So I definitely tied the quality to be loved to being in a relationship therefore when I was not in a relationship, doubts. dropped in and I tried to make myself into someone who I thought was deserving of love 💔.
This continued for quite a while and looking back this was the only reason why I would have found myself in certain relationships. I was not comfortable in who I was emotionally unless there was someone or something to attach that romantic emotion to. After my last relationship failed, I was just completely done like I seriously started considering becoming a nun not because I felt called to that but because I felt that something was wrong with me, since I kept attracting people who were not good for me.
In that moment, I fell back on God because he must know something that I do not know right? Well, He did. I discovered that moment that I was looking for something God alone could give me in the arms of others and what was this thing, my IDENTITY.
See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are! -I John 3:1
I had read this verse so many times in my life, but this time I really read it. God calls me His child, being hurt does not take that away, being broken does not take that away even the bible says "Nothing can separate us from the love of God".
Th moment I began walking in my identity that God had called me into, I was more cautious about who I joined myself with, It was either you came with intention or not. I started walking in a greater confidence, where I was no longer trying to fit into anyone's idea of who I was suppose to be instead, I was walking in who God had called me to be. There was no need to rush into a relationship because it had moved from being a NEED to becoming just a desire. A desire that no longer controlled how I saw myself.
So, I ask again "ARE YOU THERE YET". Have you identified who you are, because unless you do the world will continue to dictate who you should be and the world my dears is fickle, it never likes the same thing all the time.
